Beyond Messy Relationships is top 10 finalist for Best Memoir

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What it’s about. . . 

Beyond Messy Relationships mixes psychological wisdom and spiritual inspiration along with stories of Judy’s authentic journey. Through awakenings and role changes, her long-term first marriage suffers from chronic bitterness and toxic patterns. Bearing financial and spiritual responsibility of her four children, she earns her counseling degrees and begins private practice. Facing abandonment, rejection, and post-divorce messes, she discovers unconventional divine invitations through dance. She eventually marries her best friend and dance partner and learns to flow to the rhythm of life. Until she misses the signs. . .

Can the marriage survive?. . . from the damage caused by his psychosis?

  • Discover you’re not alone as you resonate with the struggles of a licensed professional counselor’s relationships.
  • Gain freedom from a simple formula for growth. AIR: Awareness, Intentionality, Risks.
  • Connect the dots from your past to your present. 
  • Become your true self and find hope beyond messy relationships

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“In Beyond Messy Relationships, Judy Herman has done something remarkable as a marriage counselor in applying the wisdom of her practice to her own relationships, through all their travails and triumphs. With grace and courage, she has answered the question that we have all wondered at one point another: What’s my therapist think about all this? And there is so much to learn in the answer.”

Mark LukachInternational Best-selling Author

“Judy does what every great leader must do: she goes to the hard places before asking others to do the same. Through her empathy and vulnerability, she gives us all permission to be ourselves in this insightful book about relationships. If you want to wake up to a deeper and better way of living and relating to people, read this book.”

Jeff GoinsBestselling Author

Breathe in fresh AIR: Awareness, Intentionality, and Risks

“Judy Herman has written a book that allows the reader into the most intimate workings of the human heart. But not only that. She also shows us how to work with and through life’s big dilemmas. A book of great honesty, as well as help, it was written for us all.”

Marion Roach SmithAuthor

“All living is relationship. Relationships are messy when we imagine a self in relation to another rather than awaken to the truth that there is no self without other and no other without self. Judy Herman’s Beyond Messy Relationships is a divine invitation to realize this truth. The book is told through her eyes. Let it resonate in your heart.”

Rabbi Rami ShapiroAuthor

Therapists, Clergy and Leaders

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For those in Recovery & Repair Mode

Forgive and Remember – Breathe in fresh AIR for Awareness, Intentionality, and Risk growth.

You’ve scrolled this far. Congratulations!  Already, I’m touched by your curiosity. For years, I’ve considered moments like this “divine appointments.” It takes a lot of courage for anyone when they call or schedule an appointment with me. But this is neither. Yet, you’ve read this far. For you to take the time, is still a connection I feel. And I’m wondering if even reading this may be the next right thing for you.

This my first time to author a published book. And to be transparent with you, I learned a lot that I thought I already knew. Something new for me is this. I DO
believe authors and readers have a unique connection.

And I want to tell you, Thank you. Your life and relationships are worth the journey to know how deeply loved you really are.


Judy Herman