Feeling alone, invisible & disregarded? You can’t be yourself for fear of more emotional distance. You’re stuck with no other choice. Gain insight with a mix of psychological wisdom and spiritual inspiration. Discover your true self and find hope beyond messy relationships. 

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What it’s about. . . 

Beyond Messy Relationships mixes psychological wisdom and spiritual inspiration along with stories of Judy’s authentic journey. Through awakenings and role changes, her long-term first marriage suffers from chronic bitterness and toxic patterns. Bearing financial and spiritual responsibility of her four children, she earns her counseling degrees and begins private practice. Facing abandonment, rejection, and post-divorce messes, she discovers unconventional divine invitations through dance. She eventually marries her best friend and dance partner and learns to flow to the rhythm of life. Until she misses the signs. . .

Can the marriage survive?. . . from the damage caused by his psychosis?

  • Discover you’re not alone as you resonate with the struggles of a licensed professional counselor’s relationships.
  • Gain freedom from a simple formula for growth. AIR: Awareness, Intentionality, Risks.
  • Connect the dots from your past to your present. 
  • Become your true self and find hope beyond messy relationships

“Most books about marriage use couples as their data. This book is different. Judy Herman, a couples therapist, is the client in her own book. In it she reveals her painful journey through a messy marriage to an ordered and joyful one. To illumine her journey and to inform her readers, she grounds her experience in the latest marital theories and research. Couples and therapists will benefit from reading it.”

Harville Hendrix, PhD and Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhDGetting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples

“Not many therapists would risk the personal and professional vulnerability Judy has by sharing her journey through her own messy marriage. But she shows us all how important it is that we stop blaming and focus on doing our own work of forgiving, healing and growing. Her research and professional insights were spot on. Learning to take deep breaths of AIR, her formula for awareness, intentionality and risks is a tool that we won’t soon forget. Reading this book will give you a new lens to see your next steps and gives hope for your future.”

Leslie VernickCounselor, Relationship Coach, International Speaker, Best-selling Author

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