Judy Herman Professional Bio

Judy Herman counsels those in leadership including entrepreneurs, clergy, and other professionals. She is a  counselor, speaker, and author of Beyond Messy Relationships: Divine Invitations To Your Authentic Self.  As a licensed professional counselor and mental health service provider in Tennessee, she is also a National Certified Counselor who specializes in relationships.

Judy Herman has trained with world-renowned marriage experts including Drs. John and Julie Gottman, who are known for their work on marital stability and divorce prediction. Other mentors  include Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt, founders of Imago Therapy and New York Times best-selling authors. Judy’s other mentors include Dr. Sue Johnson, a leading innovator having developed Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples. And  Dr. Dan Siegel, a pioneer in the field of Interpersonal Neurobiology.

Judy Herman writes articles addressing mental health, marriage, faith, and relationship well-being. She facilitates group retreats and speaks at universities, churches, non-profit, and civic organizations.

For fun, Judy and her husband enjoy camping, hiking, canoeing, and bike-riding. They met through ballroom dancing. At this stage, it’s backyard adventures with the young grandchildren who energize her when she’s not writing, speaking or counseling.

What I’m working on now

I’m working on developing ancillary products (journals, how-to’s, and audio versions) of my new book Beyond Messy Relationships: Divine invitations toward your authentic self. This memoir/self-help book is for those who’ve struggled in their marriages and relationships. For those who question their purpose and sense of self will find meaning and insight. I share from stories of toxic patterns and traumas, to healing and adventures. This is about my marital journey to becoming a relationship therapist. But it’s really about all of us as we become aware and recognize the value of our messes as opportunities for transformation. We can’t do it any other way. It requires knowing ourselves and God through relationships with others. I use the analogy of breathing in fresh AIR which stands for Awareness, Intentionality, and Risks.

During this season

I’m trying to find balance between staying connected through social media and the awesome organizations I’ve been involved in. My challenge is to connect regularly with those on my email list to share valuable relationship insights. I’m showing up weekly on Thursdays at 6:30 Eastern Time on live Facebook videos. I’m learning to say “no” to good opportunities that come my way so I can say “yes” to writing. I value my membership with Chattanooga Women’s Leadership Institute (CWLI) where I serve on the Leadership Studies Committee, and will seek to remain as engaged as possible.

Inspired by Ken Davis, I’m putting preparations in place having recently attended Scorre One-Day Workshop for speaker’s training. I’ll be adding a speaker’s page to the media tab in case you’re interested in my speaking for your event.

Since participating in an MBSR program(Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction) through Center for Mindful Living, I have a daily practice of meditation. It helps me be more present with my clients and I highly recommend anyone in leadership to consider the benefits.

What I do for fun

My husband and I believe having fun together means connection with each other. We met through ballroom dancing! Yes, we really did. It’s a perfect analogy for relationship patterns, but we really do enjoy it as a hobby. Our favorites are Viennese Waltz and Swing!

I’m energized by backyard adventures with my four young grandchildren. Hubby and I enjoy the outdoors – camping, canoeing, hiking, and bike-riding.  Water aerobics and swimming are my summer exercise programs.


Considering each person I encounter as a divine appointment with depth of soul is my goal. I am a Christ follower and nurture my relationship with God through my church involvement, study and reflection of Scripture, and periodic soul care retreats. I honor differences with openness. My focus is relationships and living intentionally.