Ever since childhood, relationships have sparked curiosity.
I come from a strong family line with multiples of fours in past generations. Grandmother, mom, and I were all one of four children. And I birthed four children and now have five grandchildren!
Being a psychotherapist specializing in relationships is not only a passion. But it’s a second career.
The first was raising four remarkable humans in a challenging marriage that lasted three decades.
Husband #2 was a mental health advocate who managed his bipolar disorder for many years. But the pandemic stressors awakened the severity of the illness. And it exposed relationship dynamics that are worthy of insights.
The catalyst for me to write “Beyond Messy Relationships” was his break with reality. Even after a short recovery with him being my biggest cheerleader, he relapsed. He went to the hospital and never came back in his right mind.
Along with major transitions, I’ve been living, studying and spending my entire career discovering what makes relationships authentic and what makes our well-being vibrant.
Moving Beyond Fear
For years I feared becoming a widow or a “twice divorced” relationship therapist. But now the terms have changed.
My entire life & career has been invested in figuring out relationships. Every trauma has become an awakening and tuning into a higher calling. Hearing the inside struggles of clients have reinforced the reality that none of us are alone.
What I call “divine invitations” for me have included two successful marriages. Yes, they both came to what I now say are “natural completions.” It was a miracle that the second marriage lasted as long as it did with the severity of illness it endured.
The former husbands are not “Xs.” They deserve dignity & honor. After all, one marriage birthed four (now grown adults) who have become remarkable parents themselves. The other birthed a book that is having a greater impact than I ever imagined.
It took two husbands & 40 years of marital experiences for the courage to live this beautiful and vibrantly authentic life. It’s appropriate to be an “uncoupled” woman who is so much more than a “former” wife, mother, or couples’ therapist.
We are more than our roles in life or initials behind our names. We all are deeply loved, valued, and worthy of respect.
That’s why I’m passionate about helping professional women and entrepreneurial couples.
That’s why relationships still spark curiosity!
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