I’m sitting on the couch, not in the comfort of my own home. . .

…but in my therapist’s office trying to get perspective on my marital situation. I tell her,  “I try so hard not to add to his stress. I can sense when his irritability might spiral into another bipolar episode. You know he nearly died in an auto accident in between those two hospitalizations last time.”

I continue, “In his right mind, he’s so gentle, kind-hearted. But important conversations go sideways. I don’t know if he can’t listen… or just won’t.”

She pauses, then looks at me and says, “Judy, you have a tremendous amount of loyalty and stick-to-it-iveness. I know that about you through your first marriage of 30 years.”

I feel proud in the moment. She notices.

Then she looks at me with an intensity that bares right into my soul and says words that leave me stunned:

“Judy, that’s not a compliment.”

It’s like being jolted awake from a dream realizing that my loyalty is actually toxic.

It’s at that moment I understand. I’m not just being supportive.  I’m  sacrificing my emotional sanity at the altar of someone else’s complexity. 

Then I ask myself. What am I holding onto? And WHY am I walking on eggshells? 

I share this story because that’s when I made a decision to change my perspective. That decision led to many other life-giving choices.

One of those was writing my book, “Beyond Messy Relationships: Divine Invitations to Your authentic Self.  I actually became a client in my own book. So it’s like psychotherapy in story form.

In my recovery from a horrific divorce, I hosted the podcast, “Better Relationships, Better Life” and wrote my second book, “Relationships with Purpose.” 

Since the pandemic, I moved away from the medical model of therapy. No longer within the confines of the four walls of a counseling office, I now provide innovative therapy in nature. We take the mystery out of the process. Also, I include tailor-fit packages with built-in accountability.

Specifically working with entrepreneurial couples or ambitious women, I created the C.A.L.M. method that provides long-lasting transformation.

Your story is likely different than mine. But something in you read this far. Let’s begin your courageous journey.

You can start with scheduling your 30 minute Clarity Call.  Or you may want to meet me at the next live Masterclass, “Stop Walking on Eggshells.”Let’s plan to connect.

Either way, you can also find out more about Judy’s Professional Credentials.