I feel as if I’m getting all of the benefits of your counseling without giving you anything in return.” Quote from a reader of Beyond Messy Relationships.
We all need help from time to time. And we all know that reading books are never a substitute for professional counseling. Yet, you can learn how to get help when you can’t afford therapy.
Not many therapists are so gracious to write their personal stories along with taking the mystery out of counseling. I’ve felt like a lone ranger until I read Lori Gottleib’s book, Maybe You Should Talk To Someone. Lori’s writing style is both engaging and humorous. She opens up her vulnerable self as a psychotherapist and pulls us into the stories of three clients… some of which you won’t like at first. Yet, throughout their journeys, you identify with and learn to love them.
Lori helps us honor our human struggles. Yet she gives us so much more. Her book appeals to those of us in this mental health profession. But in reality, we can all benefit from her wisdom, transparency, and expertise.

Get help by reading, or listening to books 

If you don’t care to sit with your nose in a book this summer, then you can listen. It’s so easy to do menial tasks or take a walk in the neighborhood with earbuds and a smart phone in your pocket.
You can sign up for an audible account, that comes with a [first] free month trial. Or, use your local library for downloadable audible or digital books. Of course, you can check out print books!
Reading or listening to books can be the first step to getting help.
But, there’s more.

Get help by participating in community groups 

You can start with a google search to find the right support you need. Therapy or community groups can get us out of our isolation and rigid thinking. As Lori Gottlieb has done for us in her book, groups normalize our human struggles.
For those of us who are faith-based, we value the Scripture passage in the gospel of Matthew.
For where two or three are gathered together in My name, I am there in the midst of them.” (Matthew 18:20)
Here’s some groups I recommend to my clients.

Get help by attending events

Look for community resources for events that enhance your well-being. Our community here in Chattanooga hosted the Embracing Hope event. In honor of mental health awareness month, hundreds came to hear Bluegrass music. They also spoke with vendors who provide support. Local counselors, community mental health centers, and organizations gathered together.
Now I’m in the planning stages of “The Beyond Messy Experience” event. This free event will take place on September 10th here in Chattanooga. It will also be live streamed for those who cannot attend in person. 
The main goal is to provide support. And to honor every human being’s dignity, value, and worth. Whether you’re in a partnered relationship or not, you’ll want to save the date for this event.
You may or may not get the benefits of counseling from reading Beyond Messy Relationships, or Maybe You Should Talk To Someone. But you do have what it takes. Access the resources. You know how to get help when you can’t afford therapy.

Here’s one of two steps you can take now:

  1. Sign up to get the first three chapters (for free) of Beyond Messy Relationships: Divine Invitations To Your Authentic Self.
  2. Sign up for “The Beyond Messy Experience” and mark your calendar for September 10th.