3 Questions to Get Unstuck

3 Questions To Get Unstuck

For the last few weeks I’ve had workers coming and going. You see, I live in a 1970’s home and just got my bathroom renovated! It’s amazing how updating one room can make such a huge difference! It made me realize our need for change and I thought of a series of 3 questions to get unstuck.

Comparison Question

Do you ever think about what needs renovating in your home, your relationships, or your life? Are you still thinking, believing, and relating like you did years ago?

Ask yourself: “Are my relationships, or is my marriage, stuck in the 1970s, 1980s, 1990s, or even in this decade? After years of wear and tear, it’s now dreary and ugly. In other words, is it time to renovate, change, and update what used to be vibrant and beautiful?

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It’s strange how some people can spend money on updating rooms in their homes, but don’t even consider spending money on their self care. While people are consumed with re-designing their homes or even getting a new vehicle, their mental health and relationships get run down. As a result, families fall apart, teenagers get lost, and marriages become toxic.

Compassionate Question

Your self-care is far from being selfish. It’s just the opposite. Your growth and resilience is the greatest gift that you could possibly give to your loved ones. Rather than trying to get them to change, be intentional to put energy into being the best you! It’s time to see yourself as beloved and worthy of investment.

What worked years ago is no longer serving you. And it’s absolutely vital that you care for you because it’s a full time job! Ask yourself a compassionate question. “How can I invest in myself and be a good steward of what God has given me? How can I nurture my soul in order to spread life-giving love to others?”

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We all co-create the messes in our relationships, but we’re just not aware of our part. Or, we fear our own growth will highlight the dysfunction and toxic patterns. Some of us have avoided what we know in our hearts. Yet, if we stay busy or unaware, we convince ourselves that now is not the time to take risks of growth.

Decision Question

If you resonate with this, I invite you to do the next right thing. What are you drawn to do right now? Maybe it’s reading or listening to my book, “Beyond Messy Relationships and working through the resources. Or, it might be watching this YouTube video: Divine Invitations to Your Authentic Self.

Or, you may be drawn to knowing what the Relationship Resilience Group is all about. Your next right step might be to record a question on the “Ask Judy” red tab on the side of this page. Then you can tune in at noon on weekdays or catch the replays for Facebook Live.

If you’ve been putting off making a counseling appointment, your next right step is to register. My new intern, Mandy Boerema, may be a great fit for you after an initial session with me.

Your Next Right Step

You may not need a room renovated in your home. But, for sure, your life is SO worthy to be loved and cared for. Your vibrant and authentic self is waiting for your next right step!

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